My Nest is starting to empty…
My nest is starting to empty...
My first to child to launch. How did this happen? I never expected my oldest daughter to get married so quickly. She was the one that was never interested in anyone. She was aromatic. Never really into relationships.
And then three weeks later, she is getting married. I remember thinking, wait...what?
How things have been, will be forever changed.
When she told me they wanted to move forward, I remember feeling, I'm not sure I like this. This is the last month she will be in our house. I felt sad for the time that is ending of her being in our house each day. Loving interacting with her and connecting whenever.
I am lucky that I like my son in law. He is sort of a miracle in our lives. He is playful, fun to be with, genuine, and real. I am grateful.
And to see her heart soften in so many ways to a wonderful world. In how she sees herself. In how things have fallen into place and how she sees that she is supported in every moment. And in how she believes in herself as she interacts with others. How she is open to new experiences. And how she glows. I am grateful.
I never expected it to happen. And now that it is, I notice my heart. It is happy and sad at the same time. Happy for her and her future. But sad for the change I was totally unprepared for. I am grateful. And also feel tender.
What I notice has helped me through this time:
Creating space for myself to reflect and notice my heart.
Give myself time to process.
Follow the breadcrumbs of what to do next each day.
Stay connected to the divine and know I am guided each day in what to do and focus on.
See the joy and possibility.
Wonder at how things work out when they were only one way for years. How things can change in a moment and to trust more.
Act in faith and believe in my kids that they will follow what is best for them, or learn.
I don't need to worry so much. I can let go and trust in divine help.
Take care of my own self care and ways I can nurture myself.
Stay present.
I notice what is going right:
I am grateful for each moment.
I am grateful to notice my heart and all the feels of this moment in time.
I am grateful for this new adventure.
I am grateful for how my daughters husband will add to our family.
I never expected her to ever get married. Yet here we are!
I am blessed.
Maybe this is you. Maybe this has been you in the past. Or maybe you aren’t quite there yet. But each stage of mothering life is a time to connect to your heart. This is mine right now. I'd love to support you through your ups and downs of mom life with teens. Even if they decide to get married and leave the nest. It is hard. But it will be ok. This I know!
Rooting for you, always!
Julie
Mom of Teens Coach